Undefiled Marriage Bed
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This teaching is in response to some terrible false teaching being spewed forth on youtube. Let’s get into it.
Hebrews 13:4, “Let marriage be respected by everyone, and the bed undefiled, for Yahuwah will judge the sexually immoral people and adulterers.” The word used here for sexual immorality is pornos, or pornography, fornication, debauchery. Hopefully everyone knows what adultery is. These things will defile the marriage bed. Here’s a list of some of the other sexually immoral things I include in my Son Of Man Bible in this verse in parentheses: child molestation, rape, incest, lesbianism, homosexuality, bestiality, LGBTQ+, polyamory, foreign pagan lineage, prostitution, etc. This is just a short sample list of the perverse and wicked sexual activity going on in our world today.
Here’s what Apostle Paul stated in 1 Corinthians 7:1-6, “Now concerning the issues you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to touch a woman.”2But because of temptations for many immoral acts, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband. 3The husband should give to the wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4It is not the wife who has authority over her own body, it is the husband. And likewise, the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5Do not deprive each other, except by mutual agreement and for a specific period of time. Do this so that you may devote yourselves to fasting and prayer. Then you should come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6But I say these things to you as a concession and not as a command.” Not to touch a woman means not to touch or embrace or even hug a woman who is not your female wife. Paul is telling husbands and female wives to submit to each other’s authority. Consensual sex is what Paul is referring to. You should mutually submit your body to each other in the realm of sexual relations.
Look at verse 2 again. It is BECAUSE of sexual immorality that men and women should get married and have their own wife or husband. This teaching fits well with Hebrews 13:4 above. Each married man and female wife is free in their closed bedroom to do sexual acts that please each other. They must be done by mutual consent. The man’s body belongs to his wife, and the wife’s body belongs to her husband. There is FREEDOM in the marriage bedroom, on the marriage bed, not BONDAGE!
It is sexual immorality that can defile the marriage bed, which is to remain undefiled. As long as the male husband and female wife agree on what sexual acts they will engage in, there is no sin involved in their lovemaking. Any sexual act that satisfies each partner is OK, it is NOT SIN!
The Apostle John informs us of what constitutes sin. It is found in 1 John 3:4, “Everyone who commits sin is doing what is lawless; for sin is violation of the Torah.” A Bible teacher must go back to the Torah to find out what sin is. One is not at liberty to make up sins as you go, so you can beat people up and condemn them to hellfire. The Bible teacher must study Leviticus 15, 18, and 20, and Deuteronomy 22 to discover what constitutes most sexual immorality. There may be other Scripture passages also. Things like fornication, adultery, rape, and homosexuality will defile a person and their marriage bed. And we know now that Yeshua raised that bar to the realm of the thought life: Matthew 5:27-28, “You have heard that it was said in ancient times, ‘Do not commit adultery.’28And I say to you that everyone who looks on a woman to lust after her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Folks, he’s talking about lusting after your neighbor, not your spouse. It’s OK to lust, or have passion, for your spouse, especially in the bedroom. You’d better show some sexual passion in your marriage bed, or you will drive your spouse out to your neighbor, which may lead to sin.
Here is Yeshua’s teaching on what defiles people: Mark 7:14-23, “He called the crowd again and said to them, “Listen to me, all of you, and understand. 15There is nothing from outside of a person that can defile him when it enters into him. It is what comes out of the person that defiles him. 16If anyone has ears to hear, let him hear!”17Now when Yeshua left the crowd and entered the house, his disciples asked him about the parable. 18Yeshua said, “Are you also still without understanding? Do you not see that whatever enters into a person from outside cannot defile him, 19because it cannot go into his heart, but it goes into his stomach and then passes out into the latrine, thus cleansing all food from his bowel?”20He said, “It is that which comes out of the person that defiles him. 21For from within a person, out of the heart, proceed evil thoughts, sexual immorality, murder, 22theft, adultery, coveting, wickedness, deceit, licentiousness, envy, slander, pride, and folly. 23All these evils come from within, and they are what defile a person” (Mat. 15:10-20).” Evil thoughts lead to acts of sinful behavior.
Personally, I do not believe a married man with his female wife can commit licentious acts in their undefiled marriage bed, unless they maybe invite other people into their bedroom for an orgy. But again, that falls under sexual immorality, not pure sex of a married man and female wife in their bedroom. I truly believe that pure undefiled sex in marriage is mutually consented upon by the married man and his female wife. If the husband rapes the female wife, or the female wife rapes the male husband, then again, that falls under sexual immorality, which of course is sin. It would behoove every Bible teacher of marital sexual relationships to study the entire book of Leviticus, even the whole Torah. Mutually consented upon marital sex acts will make a couple unclean, but not sinful. All you need to do is take a bath, like in a mikvah of old, or take a shower, and wait until dusk, and you will be clean again. You do not want to go to church, synagogue, or temple while unclean, that would be sinful. Study and follow the Torah, not some rantings and ravings of an unfulfilled false teacher who does not state any Scripture to back up their teaching. The Torah is quite clear about what constitutes abominable sexual immorality. Read it and let your eyes be opened to Yahuwah’s truth, not your own false fantasies.